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Left by Patricia McCann:
27/12/2020
Candle 2020_xmas4
Left by Patricia McCann:
20/12/2020
Christmas is nearly upon us. Last night I was wrapping up Christmas presents and I began to think back on Christmas of 2016. The first Christmas after Gary had passed away. I think back on all the Christmases we spent together. I remember the usual scenario at Christmas time was his family would visit 3-4 days before Christmas with a small present for Gary, stay for 20 minutes then leave. Gary was a great cook. He would always make a big pot of minestrone soup. Although I bought all the ingredient's for Christmas dinner Gary always insisted on cooking the Turkey. He always stated that he enjoyed cooking and found it very relaxing. Gary and I always spent Christmas's together in our home. New year was different. Gary and I spent Hogmanay, New years with all our friends in Carluke and always had a great time. I visited Gary's grave at the beginning of the week and laid a fresh wreath on his grave. My memories of Gary and I together can never be taken away and stay fresh in my mind and heart and they continually cheer me up especially in this uncertain time with the Covid situation.

Tricia Gary's loving partner.
Patricia McCann:
20/12/2020
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Left by Patricia McCann:
20/12/2020
Today I visited Gary's grave in Bent cemetery Hamilton. I placed a nice wreath on his grave and had a little chat. I gain a lot of comfort in visiting his grave were I laid his ashes to rest. The reason I chose Bent cemetery is because Gary was born and bread in Hamilton and his parents lived in Hamilton. They lived in Orchard street where as Gary informed me during our time together he and his siblings were born. Which is not far from Bent road cemetery. I am Glaswegian myself and have been living in Carluke for 20 years as this is the place Gary and I chose to live when we met each other all those years ago. Gary and I had many happy years together living in Carluke. However when he passed away I thought I would inter his ashes preferably with his parents which was not to be. However Gary is laid to rest were he was born in Hamilton, not far from his parents plot. Eventually as time goes by, as I purchased the plot that Gary is interred in, I will also be interred and we will be reunited. Also as I purchased the grave stone that is in place eventually my name will be added to this stone and in life as in death we will be reunited.

Patricia (Tricia) Gary's loving partner.
Patricia McCann:
14/12/2020
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Left by Patricia McCann:
14/12/2020
Tonight I decided to wrap up some of the Christmas presents I have bought for family and friends. It brought back memories when Gary was alive the thing he relied upon me was to buy and wrap up the Christmas presents for both of our families. I bought and wrapped up for his mother, sister and brother in law, as I did for my mother, daughter and grandsons. Gary always informed me he would see too his sons Christmas. As he informed me it was usually money he gave them. Gary's sons did give him Christmas presents but alas when he passed away I returned them all as I knew these would be of sentimental value to them. I do hope they treasure these things I returned to them as sentimental value means more than money.
Gary's Partner Tricia
Patricia McCann:
12/12/2020
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Candle 2020_xmas1
Left by Patricia McCann:
12/12/2020
It is getting near Christmas a time of the year were I would know I was the one who wrote the Christmas cards and bought the Christmas presents for both my family and Gary's. I would write Christmas cards to friends that Gary knew before he met me and his family. Gary was not one of these people who took time to write Christmas cards. I would send cards to his family and friends. I would sign them from Gary and Patricia. There were times that some people who knew Gary in the past that would wish him a merry Christmas either in a card or by e-mail. It did not bother me as I thought it's sad, after 17 years of sharing my life with Gary I am not wished the same.

Tricia Gary's Partner.
Patricia McCann:
10/12/2020
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September is a sad time of the year for me. It brings back heartbreaking memories of the day Gary and I were informed of his diagnosis and the extent of his disease in 2016. Gary faced his disease with dignity and courage. As people who truly knew him he was a man a few words. Although my heart was breaking Gary knew I would give him the support and love that he needed to help him through the difficult time head. When we attended his GP, Hospital Consultant appointment's he would always inform them " I have my own private nurse" In private I would lovingly say to him "Gray would you stop telling everyone I am your private nurse". On hindsight he must have taken comfort in knowing I would look after him in the difficult time ahead, even though I could not let him know my heart was breaking. Gary and I was informed of his diagnosis and prognosis on 31st August 2016. Since that date I remained by Gary's side day and night, I made sure he received the love, support, comfort he knew I would give to support him through the difficult time ahead.

Tricia.
Patricia McCann:
09/09/2020
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