The obituary notice of Vanessa COUGHLAN

Well Ness, I’m engaged! 💍It breaks my heart knowing you won’t be there on my wedding day, but I know your loving spirit will be shining down from heaven. I’ll save you a seat at the table ❤️ I’ll miss you always, keep being present. Caitlin X

12 weeks today Ness 💔

The sky is everywhere
My sister will die over and over again for the rest of my life.
Grief is forever.
It doesn't go away; it becomes a part of you, step for step, breath for breath.
I will never stop grieving her because I will never stop loving her.
That's just how it is.
Grief and love are conjoined, you don't get one without the other.
All I can do is love her, and love the world, emulate her by living with daring and spirit and joy.
- Jandy Nelson

🕊️🤍

Our beautiful Vanessa,
Constantly thinking,
never to be the same.
The tears fall quickly
just hearing your name.

Silence is golden,
yet not anymore.
Silence brings thoughts
I just can't ignore.

The nights are sleepless,
dreams out of reach.
Crying in my pillow
to you I beseech.

Surrounded by family,
I still feel alone.
My heart is so empty.
This pain I must own.

I wish I could hug you
and just see your face.
But now I have memories
to stand in your place.

Gone but not forgotten,
that's what they say.
Of course that is true...
but if only you could have stayed

Catherine Lamberton. "If Only You Could Have Stayed." Family Friend Poems, March 17, 2011. https://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/if-only-you-could-of-stayed