The obituary notice of Phillip JARVIS

Hi darling I left you one for yesterday wishing you a happy birthday. I just forgot to tell you I moved. I am still in Coalville. Also I and Leslee miss you so very much very very much. I has another fling with death just before Christmas I will spare you the details as I felt you ther bringing me back. I k know this could have been you still here. You only has to live days before you would have had this treatment. However you passed days before it was available. Fennele had you ear marked as his first patient. You know. He was so upset about your passing because he felt this new treatment you had asked about when you asked him it was not available in The UK at the time. After your stay in the hospital he just needed to rest up awhile. Once he got the date it was going to be available in the Uk you were going to get a phone call to be offered it as his first patient. When he was telling me he was going to be in touch with you soon. And I had told him you had passed only 2 days prior to my appointment. The day before my birthday. 12 of may. He was genuinely upset. He said we are only talking days how sorry he was he said although we were like chalk and cheese and he would never have put us together as brother and sister. At first. I liked your brother a man who had a good sense of humour but also the serious man with his accent still intact and proud of it to. With things they knew about he felt live had been unkind to us.but you had something he liked. It would have made his year to have been able to make that call to you. I am not sure if you ever saw that side of him over the years I have the exited scientist he was like a man so serious yet you could also see the glee in his eyes and his excitement at wanting to give people the good news. He was exited the day he said I will be phoning him in days with some very good news. About a treatment. Yoh had asked about but again when I told him you had passed you could see how upset he was so near to be snatched away

Phill my darling brother happy birthday sweetheart hope here’s not a day goes by when I don’t think of you. No one really knew how close we really were. Although sometimes you couldn’t help being two faced. But I accepted that in you. I quite often knew your reasons. But that does not ever stop me thinking of you or loving you. I heard something recently and I was not happy. You should have told me you knoe I would have protected you. I feel like as your big sister I let you down. That’s not a good feeling. I know why you never told me and swore 2 others to secrecy it’s because you know what I would have done but what I would have done about it yoh were most probably right. But that was my decision to make. I know you were only protecting me. But I should have been protecting you as your older sister. I needn’t say what it is as you know now I know. I love you my darling brother I always will.

Hey Dad, not long until Christmas now another year nearly with out you. Archie is now 7, Autumn is 11 months old causing mayhem 😊. We spend a lot of time with mum so don't worry I'm looking after her. We miss you so much, all the memories we could of made together. This time of the year always hard for me with you not around. I just hope you see how much you mean to us and how much we miss you. We love you always and forever dad xxxxx

I often wonder were all this time as gone, o often wonder were you have gone. It’s after having lost my first husband, nothing as ever been real since. I know but how I know o don’t understand. But death can not really mean the end. Well not in my world, what would be the point to life if death was the end. How come if you remember I used to give you the heebie jeebies, when I told you things were going to happen and they did. How can I feel you, and Steve. I don’t understand how or why these things happen. How I can sense things and you around but no I don’t quite understand why death is classed at the end. I remember when they said 6/8 months my prognosis and I looked him in the eyes and said no, I refuse to die they thought I was in denial but you knos phill I wasn’t I had never had my feet more firmly on the ground. I knew I would fight with everything I had, I have seen to many people go in there and come out crying. But I never once cried, those I felt who had cried had accepted their fate. Were I never once felt I was prepared for death. I knew instantly I would give cancer a run for its money. So here I am almost 11 years later, still
Living. I can imagine some of the things that have been said but I have always allowed anyone to come with me to say they were shocked was an understatement. But I knew one day it would catch up. But I can not moan I have met 3 grandchildren I never thought I would. Also quality of life was well and truly affected. It’s now having it in other parts of the body with heart failure to go with it. I still will not cry but I know my own personal battles are over. No more treatment no more of anything as my life has changed so drastically the quality is not always with living I say that from my heart of someone who totally refused to die. But the quality if I went for more treatment genuinely would not serve me well at all. So hey kiddo were every you are I will find you always xxxxxxx

Hey dad, sorry it's been awhile as you may have noticed I've been a little but busy 😊.. we think and talk about you all the time.. miss you soooooo much its unbelievable. I can't wait to tell Autumn all about our memories together.
I love you always and forever dad. You would love Bowser xxxxx
Amanda, Archie, Autumn and Bowser

I love you darling, I miss you. If time as taught us anything it to treasure each moment more. You never know what the future as in store for us, so treasure every single minute of our time with those that we love xxxx